Body Talk

Friday I was playing tennis and pulled my lower back. Luckily I had a massage already scheduled for that day. On the table Margaret (my massage therapist) said this feels really emotional and asked what was happening right before this happened? I told her that I had lost 8 games in a row to someone I felt I should be beating. The point I hurt myself on, I missed and was very angry. I realized that even though I've been practicing self love now for several years that I still am very hard on myself in sports.

I took this back even further to coming down to the US from Canada at 15 years old, a little greenie ready to take on the basketball world and become an Olympian. I ran into coach Freestone whose style was to tear you down so you would prove her wrong. Sadly, I believed her and took myself out of the game and my dreams. Later I found out that she was telling her first string varsity team that I would take one of their positions on the team before years end. I felt huge waves of grief and sadness at not having gone all the way with that dream. I had known this but never felt it all the way through it.

I realized that I've been internally coaching myself from this place ever since. That even though I'm a Genius coach and see the potential of others and cheer them on, I don't do the same for myself. I'm often critical and expect perfection from myself.

I'm also in the middle of another transition where I am moving into being an international speaker and I have not been my own best activist. This weekend I have had some time to think, since I have been confined to sitting until I can get into my chiropractor on Monday. I see this injury as a gift. To remind me to love myself and to learn to coach myself in an entirely new way. I wonder if I might have been taking myself out of yet another dream. As much as I use all the skills and tools I teach, I realize that I haven't been holding myself as whole which is the most essential thing a coach can do for their clients. I feel like I have created a tremendous amount of success for myself even with this old coaching style, so I'm excited to see what I can create from using my own inner genius coach to champion me both on and off the court. I recommit to see myself as whole.

I have already made the Varsity Speaking team and I am playing first string. As a starting player I commit play full out.

So, dear reader what "Varsity Team" have you already made that in your mind you are still trying out for? Would you be willing to congratulate yourself and start playing?

Peace Out
Megan

Valentine's Day Massacres

So here we are on the proverbial love day!!! Hmmm...interesting that it is connected to some sort of a massacre. I never was very good with history. Anyway, I was thinking about this in connection to what I see as a relationships coach at this time of year. Holy Cow!!! So many couples or hopeful couples tend to create upsets on this day. I have observed many relationship "Valentine's Day Massacres," so I've decided to create a Valentine's Day Massacre List so that you can be at choice of whether you want a massacre or don't.

HOW TO INSURE A VALENTINE'S DAY MASSACRE
Megan's Top Ten

1. Don't Love Yourself and expect that your partner should do this for you.
2. Make sure you put a lot of expectations on what your partner should be doing for you today.
3. Hope they will surprise you in some way, but don't tell them you like surprises.
4. Try to make up for all the appreciation and love that you have not been fully expressing all year and try to shove it all into this one day.
5. Wait
   
6. If you are single, notice all the couples around you and begin to think how much better and sweeter your life would be if you were in a relationship. Keep obsessing about it.
   
7. Give as much as you can to your partner, go overboard, in hopes of it being returned. Then get really resentful if they don't return the giving.
8. Assume all the other couples are having a romantic day except you.
9. Hope your partner remembers.
   
10. If your partner doesn't show up in the way you think they should, make them feel really guilty and pressure them to make up for it with a huge birthday demonstration. This way you can also be right on your birthday that they really don't appreciate you.
    

I'm a frickin genius.

Today I was collaborating with a client and I coached him to do something I've forgotten about in the last few months and that is to remember that I am my own best coach. I'm a ferocious learner and I tend to have about 4 to 6 books going at the same time, while taking workshops and being part of telecourse groups. I'm always looking for cutting edge tools and techniques. I'm able to assimilate other people's brilliance very naturally and quickly. Today I was reminded by my own great coaching that I am my best resource. I know that within me are the best ideas and instincts because they are uniquely designed for me. I've never been a fan of the cookie cutter approach which seems to be pervasive these days. We are individual and therefore how we evolve is unique to us. Truly as a coach I'm assisting people to discover their own answers while teaching them new tools and new ways to think about things. Today I recommit to be quiet every day for just a little while and listen to myself. I know that everything I need is inside of me. When I seek external learning I know I'm simply looking for reminders of what I already know. Have you met your inner coach? Let me know what you find.

Life Coach with a Zip/ The interview continues

Nick: What exactly do you do?

Megan: I consider myself a genius life coach. Which means I assist people to expand into what they were meant to be and do. I believe that everyone was born with natural genius qualities and abilities. One person may have a genius for math, while another sings or writes. I have a genius for networking. When I coach people I help them see what they were uniquely designed for and clear up anything in the way of their ability to live in their purpose. It is a skill to be able to see what your potential is and to consistently take action on those things. I teach people to do just that.

I haven't met anyone who does quite what I do. There are life coaches who help people set and achieve goals and then there are healers who help people clear past issues. I go beyond both of these. I hold space for generating a vision that encompasses their genius qualities and all of who they are, and I'm really good at seeing what is in the way of that; where people are sabotaging and assist them in moving beyond where they have let themselves go. I share with them tools to create a life of their choosing,what they really want. Sometimes that means helping them dissolve their limitations and sometimes its more about getting them to see their genius qualities and owning those gifts.

I don't believe in the "5 year plan" so much. I think it is much more powerful to have a clear vision that is big enough to encompass all of who you are, but to put more energy into the present moment. This is where transformation occurs, in real time.. I teach people how to tune in to what wants to happen next, and to take inspired action. In this way life is always fresh and unfolding.
Like I know I am moving out into a bigger stage, I don't know all the details, I simply follow what's next..like hey Megan why don't you start a blog? So I did.

Taking the Mystery out of Megan

Welcome to my blog! I will be sharing fun, transformative learnings from my life. This first post is an excerpt from an interview with Nick James (SLC famous D.J./genius superstar). The following is what I am about.

Nick:
What are you about?

Megan:
First and foremost I am about playing. I am about possibilities and discovering choices and new ways to transform. I love to assist others in accessing parts of themselves they hadn’t seen before. I’m a huge fan of manifesting my potential (look what I can do) and teaching others to do the same.

At one time in my life, I really fought for my limitations. Now I’m available for what I can create. I do this by cultivating and choosing to be curious rather than judge. I do my best to be curious about a situation rather than judge it, like: Hmmm.. I wonder what this is teaching me rather than Ah. Crap.. I can’t believe I did that again…I think in every moment we have the choice to be present, and if I’m in judgment I’m unavailable for the possibilities in front of me. What is happening right now is the only thing that matters and it’s the only place I have the power to take action.

If I look at all the transformation work I have done, it’s all about looking honestly at how I’ve chosen to limit myself and making a new choice to step into a bigger playing field. Instead of I can’t do that..I say.."How can I create that?"

I do this by being present..and curious as to what the universe is teaching me in this moment. I feel like I’m playing toss with the universe. To have the most fun I’ve made a commitment to be available for what ever is happening. Whether that is the question coming from you in this moment or the pipes in my house breaking, it is a universal toss that says: "Megan pay attention I’m playing with you right now." I get to chose what I will do with it. The more ready I am the more gentle the toss. If I am checked out I generally get a ball in the head (i.e the pipes bursting scenario) and when I’m available to play, the whole universe opens up.

So my toss to all of you reading this is to wonder.."How can I be ready for full out play with the
universe?"

It's really like a game of tennis, which I also love. When the person across the net hits the ball to you, if you are ready you will have many options; if you aren't then you stick out your racket and hope for the best. You can't win playing defensively, you have to play creatively. I choose to work with a coach because he helps me build the foundation necessary to play at my optimal level.

I believe that anyone who wants to really excel needs coaching. We would never see an Olympian come to compete without an array of coaches. Many of us have Olympic size dreams and yet don't give ourselves the kind of support necessary to achieve them. At any given time I have at least 2 coaches and 1 or 2 support groups that I participate in. This is a safe way to practice getting present, so that I have the foundation to create my dreams.

If your dreams are any more challenging than say that of a parking booth attendant, I suggest you find a coach, a support program or at the very least a buddy that you can check in with and get feedback from on a consistant basis. Continually looking at myself and getting curious is the cornerstone of my success.

More next week...