Massacre Update

Hey Fellow Valentine's Fans,

Well, I've always said whatever you focus on expands. So, on Valentine's Day, minutes after this post, I co-created a fight with my beloved. Funny!!! or NOT? My own little massacre, which, thank heavens for our commitment to skills, only lasted about 20 minutes. It actually created an opening for an amazing flow of love and appreciation later on that evening. So, if you read this too late or just couldn't help yourself, remember that you can still learn and grow a lot in the aftermath. In the meantime I would like to add 2 more items to my Massacre List:

1. Focus on what creates relationship upsets and then write about it on your blog.
   
2. Make sure that by writing your blog on Valentine's Day right before you are supposed to leave for your romantic get away, that you run a 1/2 hour late of when agreed to leave.

We have lots of time to prepare for next year!
Laughing and slightly blushing...
Megan

Valentine's Day Massacres

So here we are on the proverbial love day!!! Hmmm...interesting that it is connected to some sort of a massacre. I never was very good with history. Anyway, I was thinking about this in connection to what I see as a relationships coach at this time of year. Holy Cow!!! So many couples or hopeful couples tend to create upsets on this day. I have observed many relationship "Valentine's Day Massacres," so I've decided to create a Valentine's Day Massacre List so that you can be at choice of whether you want a massacre or don't.

HOW TO INSURE A VALENTINE'S DAY MASSACRE
Megan's Top Ten

1. Don't Love Yourself and expect that your partner should do this for you.
2. Make sure you put a lot of expectations on what your partner should be doing for you today.
3. Hope they will surprise you in some way, but don't tell them you like surprises.
4. Try to make up for all the appreciation and love that you have not been fully expressing all year and try to shove it all into this one day.
5. Wait
   
6. If you are single, notice all the couples around you and begin to think how much better and sweeter your life would be if you were in a relationship. Keep obsessing about it.
   
7. Give as much as you can to your partner, go overboard, in hopes of it being returned. Then get really resentful if they don't return the giving.
8. Assume all the other couples are having a romantic day except you.
9. Hope your partner remembers.
   
10. If your partner doesn't show up in the way you think they should, make them feel really guilty and pressure them to make up for it with a huge birthday demonstration. This way you can also be right on your birthday that they really don't appreciate you.
    

To Be is To Grow

Thanks for you response Angie, I appreciate the opportunity to clarify. I know it seems like what I wrote was about doings, however a baby isn't trying to grow tall he just does. He isn't trying to learn language he just does. So in the natural cycle of being it's not that there is an absence of doing but that it occurs as a natural consequence of being. Nature is never inactive it is always evolving, even when it is dying, it is in motion. Most adults however do things to try to get an outcome rather than to originate movement from their natural state of being. It would be like a rose trying to come up in the middle of winter. I think we can sometimes cultivate our being by not doing anything, in fact I think it is a lovely experiment to try on, and, we can also express our being in action.
One of my favorite practices I learned from Gay Hendricks is called Alpha Days, where you take a day where you simply be until you get an impulse to go do something and then you go do that. One of the rules is you can't do any business related projects including emails, returning calls. In short nothing scheduled and no "have to 's." I've done this for a day and for blocks of time and I find it really helps me distinguish between "being centered" movement from "doing centered movement."
Megan